Codependency is an adaptive coping mechanism used compulsively by those who seek to obtain a personal sense of worth and value through meeting the perceived needs of others.
The other person may not look needy, but something in us senses that they could be better with our help, and the dance begins.
For a codependent person stuck in a dysfunctional relationship, there are significant losses: sanity, worth, identity, choice, health, self-respect, and hopes and dreams.
Boundaries define and protect who we are, what we value, and what we are responsible for. They keep us safe, and we have the right to ensure our own well-being.
We don’t have to fix, rescue, or control others nor should we allow them to control us. We’re free to care for ourselves and seek change in our own lives.
“Rejoice in the Lord always; and again I will say rejoice!” Phil. 4:4 ESV
“Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near.” Phil. 4:5 NIV
“Do not be anxious about anything…” Philippians 4:6 ESV
“…in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving
let your requests be made known to God.”
“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything
worthy of praise, think about these things.” Philippians 4:8 ESV